Majority-Minority

I got a call. One of my senior asked me something’s about my colleague. She was inquiring about prospective groom for her niece. She had some feedback that my friend is not social enough. I was kind of stuck, I never thought like that about my friend. It is true my friend does not go out to people and make friends easily. But he has few friends, few good friends. The question my mind framed is that is it necessary to have some minimum number of friends to be ‘normal social’ being. Does it affect your groom tag or domestic bliss?

I think marriages, arrange marriages, are social event. Now, how society judges you? Society is made up of us. For say, if you interact with some 10 peoples regularly or significantly. These 10 peoples make your society. Now if majority out of 10 likes you, you are liked by society.  

Part II. How these 10 people like you? Human beings judge others on their subjective discretion. If you good to me, spend time with me, appreciate me; probability of me liking you is high. So, acceptance by society is summation of subjective assessment.

This is leading to me other question. Is there anything good or bad? Or it depends only on whether you are in majority and minority? Just because you get along with 3 people out of 10, your circle becomes small, so I become bad. Why? You are labeled as negative just because you are in minority.    

So right and wrong depends, on who is the judge or jury. My though process is going to Einstein, Theory of Relativity. If it is a judge, it depends on his experience and philosophy. If it is a jury, it becomes majority- minority equation.

Majority-minority will always exist. I think what is required is to accommodate minority; to accommodate things, ideas which does not exist in your philosophy. To expand is to harmonize. 

1.
Aisle to window
I'm sitting on aisle seat
& looking at window.
A gal, we call chinki with love,
is looking down window.
Sun rays are shining on her golden hairs
& melting my heart.
I like the view from aisle
much better than window.

2.
Pain has bereft of energy to be angry;
lifelessness manifests as relaxed smile.

Creative Expression

This post is written with the aim of glorifying the word, ‘Backchodi’.

People usually use this word to disregard an opinion or a conversation. ‘Backchodi’ is an unrecognized art form. We would try to understand how ‘Buckchodi’ is an art form based on two characteristics: Creativeness; self-expression.

It is highly creative for simple reason that it defies logic or reason. It creates logic; it creates connection where none exist or none is generally perceived. It has qualities of both prose and poem. It drives its imagination; it drives its canvas, its play field from poem. In this canvas, this play field it expresses itself as prose.

It is highly cathartic as a mode of self-expression. When others take it as ‘Buckchodi’, one can easily get away without hurting others.

When thoughts with your own unique tint are expressed, one feels lighten and when one connects to outer world as his base identity rather than expected identity; it is elevating. Living in a world preserving your base identity gives you more to explore in yourself, though it doesn’t guarantees any acceptance. ‘Backchodi’ gives you full freedom to present as you perceive. Even if your perception is outright cynical: the creativity to create it and freedom to express it; is at par with any other art form.

‘Bagchodi’ is finding acceptance and popularity nowadays, by way of many television shows and stand-up comedian acts. Soon, we hope bakarchodi will get its due respect in our daily life also.

CHANGE

I remember an advertisement with a line ‘Zindgi main kuch to ho aisa jo ho ek jaisa’.

Change is inevitable. So, how to cope up with change? One way is to accept the change and move on with present.

Acceptance. But can acceptance come without understanding. Understanding, can we understand more than our experience.

What is change? When do you realize that something is changed? I think that feeling that something has changed breeds from lack of understanding.

Let me make an attempt to put it. Life is a flow; flow of time, flow of events. Daily we are going through this flow without complaining, sometimes happily also. As if, we are counting 1,2,3,4. But then one day it becomes 4,6,7,8, and it agitates us that something has changed.

Either 5 was never supposed to be there. Pattern was like 1,2,3,4,6,7,8,9,11. Our understanding was wrong, and our wrong expectation leads us to see it as change.

Another view can be that at every point our actions are determining the next event. For example if we keep on adding 1 to every previous number we will get 1,2,3,4 and on. But at 4 we have added 2 to get 6.

We many times don’t understand the how our actions have made the change, because we don’t have that level of conscious alertness to understand complex effects of our actions.

Lastly, on another higher level, there is no pattern in flow. It is so random for our mind to understand. Only way to live without complaining about change is to surrender ourselves to present. Take responsibility for honesty in our actions, honesty of our intentions and leave results to greater forces of universe.

Weakness – Sensitivity – Expression

I wrote these words few days back. Now I am not able to recollect why? But I believe that if something I’ve thought sincerely then it should be in my mind somewhere. With this belief I’ve started that my mind would lead to that connection between these words, which made sense to me sometime back.

What is weakness? Dictionary says, “A particular part or quality of someone or something that is not good or effective”. In case of someone doing something, I would take it as inability of someone to perform something effectively is termed as weakness of someone in that something.

So, weakness is a degree of measurement of performance. But does performance is based on ability alone. Isn’t performance based on plethora of environmental and physiological factors?

Sensitivity: Dictionary says, “Ability to record small changes”.  I am inferring that sensitive persons absorb changes in environment around them more than others. Does inhaling of these external changes affect their performance? So, is performance of sensitive persons degrades not due to their inability, but due to their ability to decipher a little extra?

Expressions: In context of sensitive persons, they need to express more because they have absorb more to express. They need strong expressions because what minute things they have seen, are not seen by most. And above all, these people always check their expressions in consideration to others.

Sensitivity with discretion, action and courage will make rainbow in sky. Otherwise, like a cloud, it can make person rudderless at mercy of wind. It will make you hold much for long and far.