I got a call. One of my senior asked me something’s about my
colleague. She was inquiring about prospective groom for her niece. She had
some feedback that my friend is not social enough. I was kind of stuck, I never
thought like that about my friend. It is true my friend does not go out to
people and make friends easily. But he has few friends, few good friends. The
question my mind framed is that is it necessary to have some minimum number of
friends to be ‘normal social’ being. Does it affect your groom tag or domestic
bliss?
I think marriages, arrange marriages, are social event. Now,
how society judges you? Society is made up of us. For say, if you interact with
some 10 peoples regularly or significantly. These 10 peoples make your society.
Now if majority out of 10 likes you, you are liked by society.
Part II. How these 10 people like you? Human beings judge
others on their subjective discretion. If you good to me, spend time with me,
appreciate me; probability of me liking you is high. So, acceptance by society
is summation of subjective assessment.
This is leading to me other question. Is there anything good
or bad? Or it depends only on whether you are in majority and minority? Just
because you get along with 3 people out of 10, your circle becomes small, so I
become bad. Why? You are labeled as negative just because you are in minority.
So right and wrong depends, on who is the judge or jury. My
though process is going to Einstein, Theory of Relativity. If it is a judge,
it depends on his experience and philosophy. If it is a jury, it becomes
majority- minority equation.
Majority-minority will always exist. I think what is
required is to accommodate minority; to accommodate things, ideas which does
not exist in your philosophy. To expand is to harmonize.
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